And equally, when I look at some of my behaviours and how I handled relationship challenges, I also wish I could turn back the hands of time and have a “do-over”.

And since that’s not possible, I have taken

🖤lessons from my own experiences
🖤tens of thousands of dollars spent on my own personal and professional growth
🖤the teachings of much older and wiser beings

And created a program to help those who are done going in circles,

And who are ready to call in a relationship that they deserve!

And equally, one where they get to show up as their best self,

So they can truly ask for THE BEST in another, because they are GIVING their best self 💜

If this is you, here is you your call to action!

I have a 12-week program - aptly named “SASSY” 🤭🤭

To help you navigate the world of dating, heartbreak, and bringing your divine self to the table.

If you would like to know more, DM me, or follow the link in the bio.

(P.s. it starts in February 🥳)

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In order to meet the needs of another, it’s not usually that difficult (unless there’s an anxious attachment or some other issues around trauma).

Creating a sense of safety and security, a feeling of being loved and thought of can be as simple as;

💜 a text that says “thinking of you x”
💜 buying someone’s favourite chocolate bar
💜 complimenting their appearance or a quality you appreciate
💜 Touching base while you’re away or on a night out with the guys/girls
💜 Initiating physical affection or intimacy
💜 Asking about their day/stressors and being genuinely curious to hear their response (and giving space for them to speak 😉)

People often make their needs seem more complex and difficult to meet, than what they actually are…

Watch the video here ➡ https://www.instagram.com/p/CkfwtFupIJU/

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I love teaching men & women to set boundaries,

To ask for what they desire in a partner. But it’s equally important to make sure you’re bringing to the table, that which you seek. Because… You attract what you are ✨

So if you’re seeking love, BE in a state of love as often as you can…. Love your life, love your friends, love your job, love your pets.

If you want a trustworthy partner, ensure that YOU are trustworthy.

If you want a fun partner, check in to you’re own humouress self.

If you want someone who’s passionate, focus on your own passions!

BE what it is that you seek, in order to attract your mirror, your divine counterpart.

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Repeating the same patterns?

Attracting the same experiences?

Take it as a sign that you’re not shifting your thoughts and your consciousness 🧠

If you would like to change that, send me a DM

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It’s important to get that they are necessary.
When you think about manifesting what you truly desire,

Chances are that it does not include a number of aspects of your current reality.

And if that’s the case, it means you’re gonna have to let go of the parts of your life (or yourself) that are no longer serving.

In order to make way for what it is that your soul deeply desires ✨

Letting go is hard.

The most important thing is to have compassion for yourself during this time, and to TRUST that

What is happening;

🙈 the loss, the uncertainty, the pain,

Trust that it is happening FOR YOU and NOT TO YOU!! ✨

And consider how the challenges you’re experiencing may be in service of your deepest desires 💎💎

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While externally, not too much has changed in my life (asides from leaving a job of almost 7 years to go into solo private practice, and returning to the area of forensic psychology 🙈😂),

What has changed internally…. 🤯

You know when you’ve been stretched… when you hold your head in your hands, look up to the universe and mutter something like “come on….!!!!! Enough already”.

As I say, be careful what you wish for!!

The thing about growth, it never comes in the way you imagine. You don’t head off to some nature retreat, gather with a group of women (or men), connect on your shared experiences and then “ta da” ⭐️

Return home, magically transformed into a wiser, stronger, more empowered version of yourself! 😏😏

Nope, wisdom is forged by going through the fire 🔥 and coming out the other side.

And even then, we need to INTEGRATE our experiences.

To make sense and meaning and to find our “new norm”.

The place within ourselves we come to call “I” or “me”…. At least temporarily that is. Until the next m...

Now I’m not saying that some peoples DEMANDS on others aren’t a lot, but I am saying that out GENUINE core needs are not that complex and difficult to meet!!

So if you’re in a relationship and feel as though your needs aren’t being met,

Before you label yourself as “too needy”, consider whether you’re partner is failing to meet some basic needs…

Such as;
• creating a sense of safety and security that provides TRUST
• making you feel valued and important by spending time with you
• engaging in a healthy, sexual relationship
• including you in future plans
• offering emotional support and validation
• allowing you to have influence in the relationship

While a partner can’t be ALL things to you, there are certain needs that MUST be met in order to make the relationship worthwhile!

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The purpose of dating is to spend time with a person and to decide if you want to see them again,

Not to decide if you want a relationship or to marry them!!! That requires time!

I work a lot with the women in my SASSY program on not diving in too quickly or letting their desire for a relationship overpower their ability to be discerning ⚖️

Instead, we focus on them having fun and enjoying the interactions they’re having, while exploring the connection….

They’re encouraged to go into the experience with an open mind and a level of optimism, no matter what their past experiences have been.

Why? Because if they have a negative mindset, and carry beliefs like “I never meet anyone”, “people cheat”, “I’m not desirable”, chances are they will find those experiences!

Not only that, they’re not bringing their best selves to the table…. Side note; pessimism is NOT attractive 🙅🏼‍♀️

If you’ve had negative experiences in the past but you’re desiring to see the dating world differently, from a places I’d ...

Failure is the point where you give up, not when there's room for improvement! 

For months and months after I had recorded the content for my online program,  I couldn’t watch myself. I couldn’t bear to see myself in action and deal with potential shame, self-criticism, self-judgement, and focussing on how it could’ve been better.

I knew that I would judge myself, rather than acknowledge how far I’d come and what it actually took for me to create and deliver such a transformational program (if I do say so myself lol)

I was in fear of seeing myself;

“What if”;

🖤 it doesn’t make sense

🖤 it’s confusing

🖤 it doesn’t offer enough value

🖤 I sound silly

🖤 it’s too basic

🖤 it’s not basic enough

Aarrggghhhh!!! And this from someone who lives and breaths personal growth, conscious awareness, mindset shifts, self-compassion, worthiness, and the deepest levels of self-love… 

And I knew that I put my heart and soul into my programs and so if it wasn’t good enough, my m...