“It’s so confusing… we get along so well, we’ve got so much chemistry and we like the same things, we have so much in common. It’s so frustrating that he won't commit”…

A familiar statement that I hear so many women say, and something that I myself would have said once upon a time… But now this situation is no longer confusing to me, as I understand the neurochemicals that cause us to be attracted to a person,

And I know that this has NOTHING to do with whether you have found your match, and more to do with hormones and chemicals like dopamine, adrenaline, and oxytocin!! Neurochemicals that have you feeling good in the moment, and leave you wanting more…. 

This is what causes you to be attracted to someone and lusting over them, even though;

•  how they’re treating you (including when they’re not with you), 
• their actions, and
•  their commitment (or lack of)

Don’t warrant such a high regard for them....

Someone who won’t commit but gives you “breadcrumbs” will a...

Over the weekend I wrapped up a two-day online event, teaching couples the Seven principles for Making Marriage Work, based on. the book by Dr John Gottman & Nan Silver. This book is an overview of the concepts, behaviours and skills that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. In this workshop we took it a step further, and focussed on strengthening the skills couples need to build in order to embody a "master" of relationships, as opposed to the "disasters" of relationships.

What a treat it was to share this work from Dr. John Gottman who has conducted over 40 years of research! The research and evidence behind this method is phenomenal, and I love being able to teach people skills that actually work!!! It was so great sharing this with some amazing humans who value their relationship and are so committed to doing the work, that they show up on a Sunday!!! 

There is so much to teach when it comes to the principles (two days and we could ha...