Once upon a time I was sitting in a waiting room where I struck up a conversation with a young girl. A beautiful, sweet girl who was “in love” with a boy she had been seeing for a few months...

She spoke about how amazing he was, saying he was kind, funny, adventurous and driven. As she spoke about him her eyes lit up, reminiscing over moments they'd shared while re-experiencing the buzzing feelings that new romance elicits; emotions that had her feeling "lucky" to be in this situationship  (*situationship being a romantic or sexual relationship that is not considered to be formal or established) him.

But what she also expressed was fear and avoidance. She liked him so much that she was afraid of investing time in him without knowing what their future would hold, while paradoxically avoiding having "the conversation" about where she stood with him. Even though this conversation had the potential to give her clarity and alleviate the fear and anxiety she was experiencing! 

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