“It’s so confusing…

“It’s so confusing… we get along so well, we’ve got so much chemistry and we like the same things, we have so much in common. It’s so frustrating that he won’t commit”…

A familiar statement that I hear so many women say, and something that I myself would have said once upon a time… 🤦🏻‍♀️

But now this situation is no longer confusing to me, as I understand the neurochemicals that cause us to be attracted to a person,

And I know that this has NOTHING to do with whether you have found your match, and more to do with hormones and chemicals like dopamine, adrenaline, and oxytocin.

Neurochemicals that have you feeling good in the moment, and leave you wanting more…. 🧲

This is what causes you to be attracted to someone and lusting over them, even though;

❌ how they’re treating you (including when they’re not with you),
❌ their actions, and
❌ their commitment (or lack of)

Don’t warrant such a high regard for them 🤦🏻‍♀️🙄

Someone who won’t commit but gives you “breadcrumbs” will activate arousal of your nervous system. As in, they create anxiety in you, keeping you wondering when you will hear from them next, when you will see them again….

And it’s THIS arousal that gets confused as “something” between the two of you, a “connection”. When really it’s just anxiety!

What is going on is actually quite simple… they’re behaviour and their choices tell you all that you need to know….

But you may have found yourself confusing lust and anxiety as something more, and finding ways to justify or defend their decisions, coming up with all the “why’s” they aren’t progressing the connection, or how the are “kind of” giving you what you want.

When the truth is, it’s NOT ENOUGH!!

In my SASSY program we go deep in understanding neurochemistry, attraction and what you can DO to navigate this in new relationships.

If you are ready to;

💜 stop repeating past patterns in dating
💜 choose someone who is worthy and deserving of you
💜 develop skills to manage the anxst that goes on in dating
💜 learn how to choose a partner who is your ideal match
💜 invest 12 weeks into yourself,

Then my SASSY program is for you!! Click here to learn more.